Leah, God hears your cries

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Leah, don’t you know how beautiful you are inwardly? Even though those eyes are sad and weak outwardly? Leah, I know you’re tired of carrying the responsibility of the household on your shoulder, because you’re older and some times it gets real heavy like a boulder. Lonely with no one that TRULY loves you, those nights are colder.
Leah, life seems to make you invisible when you walk next to your beautiful sister. You say heeeyy Mr.!!! Can’t you see? Its me It’s Lee! I’m beautiful too inwardly. My father trick a man to marry me so he sold  My husband doesn’t love me and my sister HATES me. God all those that are close to me has forsaken Lee. I just want to lay down and die! Oh God please hear my cry.
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imageIn Genesis 29, the story is really focused on Jacob and Rachel, it’s a love story that’s seems so sweet. Jacob has traveled all these miles to find his relatives house, only to find his true love at first sight!! Rachel is actually his first cousin, she is the daughter of his mother’s brother Laban. That was biblical tradition and practice back then to marry into the family ( I won’t even touch this right now). He was so in love with this Rachel that he worked 7 years for his uncle to gain her hand in marriage.
The bible says that there were two sisters Leah the oldest and Rachel who was the youngest. The bible states that Leah had delicate eyes, some say that they were unattractive ( ugly) or that she was cross eyed. How ever Rachel was beautiful in every form.

Jacob does the 7 years work and there is a feast for the new bride and groom. Now after its all said and done Jacob is more than ready to consecrate the marriage with his lovely wife Rachel. So when Jacob went into the dark tent drunk and in love he was ready for the love making and it happened. He woke up that morning hung over, excited and overjoyed also that after 7 years of waiting he finally got the woman of his dreams (Ladies don’t ever believe a man won’t wait for you, because if he loves you he will wait). But it wasn’t Rachel, it was weak eyed Leah. Jacob was livid! He asked his uncle why did you do this to me? Why did you deceive me? I worked 7 years like you asked for Rachel, but instead you trick me and make me sleep with Leah?

The uncle states that it’s custom for the oldest to marry first, also to stay with her until the week of the festival of marriage is over and serve me yet another 7 years and you can have Rachel after. Jacob loved Rachel so much that he reluctantly agreed. Can you imagine how Leah is feeling at this point and time? Her father abandoned, pimped and sold her, her sister hates her for taking her husband, the man she married loves another woman (her sister). I can’t imagine that type of rejection and pain at one time in one household. What kind of father would just give his daughter away to a man that doesn’t want or even love her? Just for his selfish gain. His job was to protect, cover and fight for her.

Time goes by and Leah get pregnant a few times with all boys, and every time she gave birth she names her sons based on the hopes that her husband will love and notice her, but it never happens. It wasn’t until her 4th son Judah, (which means give God praise) that God spared her heart and womb by leaving her barren because she was just sex to him. He is just using her to quench his sexual appetite until he gets his sweet Rachel. All he wants is his beautiful Rachel. Is that you? Are you just a thirst quencher? An appetite filler? Stop being the appetizer and carry yourself as the MAIN COURSE.

I can go on and on about this biblical story but I’ll stop right here and you can read the rest for yourself. When I read this story it hurt me so much because I was once Leah, I had sex with men thinking that sex would keep him and that he would fall in love with me once he saw that I was a good woman; Boy was I wrong. Thank God I grew out of that theory real quick. I noticed that there are a lot more Leah’s out here than there are Rachel’s. Woman who are abandoned by their fathers, woman who are not very pretty outwardly, but are beautiful inwardly if someone would take the time to notice her. Woman having babies out of wedlock thinking and hoping it will keep the man. Woman that are out here sleeping with other woman husbands and boyfriends because they are too broken and insecure inside to believe they deserve their own husband. Woman are fighting each other over a man instead of leaving him alone. Woman who are tired of being hated and just want to be loved. Woman raising children alone, woman who are in bad relationships, marriages because they are unequally yolk but don’t know how to get out. Woman who are sleeping with men that they know have no intentions of making them his wife let alone his girl. Woman who call on God for help but it seems as if the only man that ever loved her, He too doesn’t hears her. Honey, God is not a man that He should lie, Nor a son of man that he should repent (Numbers 23:19). My God, there is so much wisdom and lessons in this story it isn’t funny.

What I want you to know Leah is that God hears your cry. Just like He heard her in the bible. In Genesis 29:31 it says that God saw that Leah was hated, so He opened her womb, but Rachel was barren. Wow Rachel was a beautiful seedless fruit. These two SISTERS were envy of each other and competing with each other from birth now for the love of a man. Sounds familiar?? It should because you know you are mad at your child’s father right now for leaving you and choosing HER. So to get him back and punish him, you keep his child away from him claiming you don’t want HER around your child. This is so childish and wrong on your part; You are using your child as a pawn in a game that you lost a long time ago. Then you get mad because that man isn’t choosing his child over his girlfriend, but in reality he really isn’t choosing HER over YOU!! You won’t see it that way because through your bitter eyes it’s him rejecting his child. Leah, who has done you wrong in your life that you have to fight for someone that was never yours? You weren’t created to have to fight for his love and to prove that you are a good woman or good enough, you were created to be loved and adored. Don’t be BITTER be BETTER.

Leah, God hears your cries from the open window as you lay with your head buried in your tear stained pillow, Leah God heard your cries when he first hit you and God Heard his lies when he said that he wouldn’t do it again. Leah, God hears your cries that come from deep within, from the self hate you have for yourself. Leah God hears your cries when depression and bipolar seems to haunt you in the day and well into the night. Leah God heard your cries from your mothers womb, when she tried to abort you but it didn’t work. Leah God heard your cry when you were molested, raped and physically beaten. Leah God hears your cries as you tried to take your own life, Leah Leah Leah Leah!!! God will never leave you nor forsake you, He built you so strong yet gentle, you are not easily broken but you are pliable. Yes things in life will gut punch you and bend you over, but you WILL NEVER BREAK!! That divorce will not break you,that breakup will not break you, depression will not break you, being a single mother will not break you, being alone will not break you because Leah God hears your cries.

Mine eye runneth down with rivers of water for the destruction of the daughter of my people. (Lam 3:48)

Tears are nothing more than inward cleanse of a hurting soul. Water is purification that is necessary to make something clean and like new again. Tears of water is restoration, renewing of the mind and heart. Once the tears have stopped,( and they will stop always stop) you will feel better and stronger.

Leah beauty is your name, You are enough and if he doesn’t see it, another man will. Please rest in the Lord and find peace in His loving arms. Love yourself more than you love that man and love God more than you love yourself because God loves you more than you or any man can ever love you.

Shawna Seymore,
Founder, S.O.W ( Sisters Of Worth) Empowerment Group,
Life Coach, Minister, Motivational Speaker

The Touch Part 2

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When we were little girls,some of us jumped rope, played hopscotch, dressed up in our mothers clothes,used her makeup and we pretended that our favorite cabbage patch kid or doll was our baby and we played house like we were the mother. We dreamt of being married to our favorite superstar crush (mines was Ralph Tresvant) and living in a big house with 2.5 kids and a dog. We wanted the prettiest white wedding dress and to live happily ever after.

In our little world things were perfect we didn’t have a care in the world, until we went to sleep and saw the boogie man in our closets, under our beds, in our dreams, some even walked through our front doors. Some of us are still having that same nightmare today. As children we are so trusting except to the strangers that our parents told us not to talk to. I listened but unfortunately it wasn’t a stranger that touched me wrong, it was someone I knew very well.

So now lets fast forward years later into our adulthood we are grown now, some of us are even mothers now raising our own kids to the best of our ability, but something isn’t right! Your past wont allow you to forget what happened to you and it either made you 1 of 3 things sheltered and paranoid, promiscuous or it drives to you find comfort in the same sex. All which are un natural acts which stems from being violated. Can you relate? For me when I was young I was promiscuous, I called it being sexually free, in reality I was giving my body away for love, attention and affection not for the sexual aspect of it.

I was getting kisses, the hugs, the caressing and making believe it was love and with all of that I was good but the guy wasn’t, he wanted much more because after a few more times of that and then saying we have to stop, they’re not trying to hear that!! So it happens… Someone touched me wrong again but this time I gave him permission. I gave him permission to say things that stroked my ego. I gave him permission to tell me lies, I gave him permission to take the very special thing that I was suppose to give to my husband one day. I was left empty, unfulfilled and tainted many times over.

How many times have you given someone permission to TOUCH you wrong? Whether sexual, physical or emotional? If it hurts when its happening its a WRONG TOUCH. I’m sure you are saying how did I give him permission to hit me? You didn’t at first but if you stayed after the first hit, then you gave him permission to do it again. This wasn’t our plan as a child we were suppose to get married and live happily ever after right??

So now you are left heart broken, wounded emotionally also left with a child to raise all alone. So we learned our lesson right?? Wrong! Because that little girl inside of us is still searching for a place to drop the pain off and a man that will make all the hurt go away. It took me getting tired of the fake relationships, the lonely nights, the crying and the CRAZY men I was meeting to realize that I deserved so much more and that I was worth the wait and my past does not dictate my present situation especially not my future.

Unfortunately it all stems from being a DADDY-LESS DAUGHTER, we didn’t have the blueprint on life about how a man should and shouldn’t treat us because our father wasn’t there. So we are left to walk through life blindly creating a blueprint that we as woman think a man should be. (We get it wrong every time).

My sister no matter what your past looked like and no matter what mistakes you have made because of misguidance or pain, I want to let you know that you are NOT what you did. What went on in your life doesn’t define the woman that you were born to be. What didn’t kill you only came to make you stronger and even though your bent you are NOT broken. We as woman have to realize that we control our happiness and joy. We must also be more patient and careful when selecting a mate. Don’t allow depression, low self esteem and self hate to make that life changing decision for you. Get help for any past issues or talk to someone that can be a great support system for you. Get back to loving you again before you allow someone into your life. Ladies, men can sniff out a woman that is desperate, vulnerable, that has low self esteem and that doesn’t love herself and has no self worth. Men being conquerors by nature will go in for the kill when they know all of this.
Have you ever wondered why you keep attracting the same type of men ? Men that are married,in a relationship, abusive and emotionally unavailable to you? They seem to be so attracted to you right? Its not because your so pretty and so irresistible its because your giving off negative pheromones. While it may be true that you can have any man you WANT however, every man you want may not WANT you! Let that simmer a for little bit. Please know that while I’m writing this blog its helping me also to realize This Woman’s Worth. If we want better, we have to do and require better for our lives. We were created by God as a SPECIAL GIFT to man; not to be his door mat, side piece,punching bag or baby incubator . We have a purpose on this earth and its not what your past says it is, its what you say it is. So live and love yourself so much that when that man finds you, he has to love you the same way that you love yourself.

When we keep finding ourselves in this dead end relationships, that all end in heartache or leave us feeling jaded, We have to start looking at the elephant in the room which is US. My goal is to help a woman that may feel like she has to settle for the first man that show her some type of attention because of past mistakes. Not so! You are worth the wait and you are worth being loved and cared for.
My hope is that this blog touches the very core of your heart and soul and that something I said resonates and replays continuously in the back of your mind.

Here is my prayer for you…..

Father I come humbly before you the best way that I know how. I come on the behalf of every woman that is reading this blog, Father I ask that you touch every woman and meet them at their very need according to your will. Show them their true worth; place joy back into their hearts and lives. I come against low esteem, suicide, depression, promiscuity, self hate, emptiness, past pain and old scars. Father show them how beautiful they are and how unique you made each one of them, comfort them Father and let them know you always are there when ever they need to talk and unlike man you will never leave them nor forsake them. Give them a good night sleep, stir up their gifts and talents, give them business ideas and confidence to go back to school and get their GED or degree. Father I also want to speak a special prayer for all the single mothers that may have given up on love, wrap your arms around them until they regain their self worth. In Jesus name I pray Amen!

I hope this has help someone and I while know it wont reach everyone and this isn’t everyones story, you may know someone that is dealing with type of issue, if so please send them the link. Thanks for reading please comment and follow. See you next week.

Shawna Seymore,
Founder, S.O.W. (Sisters Of Worth)
Minister,Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

The Touch part 1

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I want you to go back to your childhood with me and together lets pull these bandages off these wounds that obviously didn’t heal but actually got infected and spread down into our adulthood. No one put ointment on these wounds and they didn’t even take us to the hospital for proper treatment . Why? Because some of us never told our parents we got hurt and if we did, they didn’t believe us, or did nothing except COVERED IT UP with a bandaid.

Are you ready? Let the healing began.

When a baby is born the VERY first priority for a parent is protection and shielding that baby from any hurt harm or danger throughout their young life. While we know its virtually impossible to protect a child from every fall, bump, bruise and every inch of pain, its the parents responsibility to help with the healing process of the bump or bruise by kissing it and making it feel better.

A baby’s MOST IMPORTANT need besides food and shelter is TOUCH. It is very important in growth and the development of the baby.
During the WWII a rather brutal experiment was performed on 2 groups of infants. The first group of infants were held,rocked, TOUCHED and stimulated in a physical manner. The second group of infants were fed and changed but not held or TOUCHED in any other manner. The first group of babies thrived and grew into well function, while many of the babies from group 2 died and failed to thrive that the experiment was called off. See Link Below:

http://www.healthguidance.org/entry/15173/1/The-Importance-of-Touch-in-Parent-Infant-Bonding.html

So you see touch is a matter of life or death and is very important. Even as adults a hug, holding of hands, a warm kiss, a hand on a shoulder showing support or encouragement,laying in the arms of the one you love is very important and soothing to the human heart, mind ,body and soul. But the wrong touch can and will have a traumatizing affect. Whether consciously or subconsciously the affect is lasting. I’m talking about molestation, rape, physical abuse and even abandonment by a parent for most of us its a father that walked out on us. ( I’ll be talking about that in another blog real soon).

This is for my sisters (and some brothers) that once you saw those horrible words it produced chills, anger or even a vivid vision of that once dark place from our childhood. Yes I said OUR because I’m not exempt from these words I type. I was violated 3 times ages 6 and 9, once by my mothers male friend, and twice by my mothers boyfriend (I thank God penetration wasn’t involved). After that second time I would go outside to play when I knew we has coming over and I didn’t come back in the house until I knew he was long gone. Do you remember your Ordeal?

What must be going through a child’s mind when this awful act is happening ? We just want it to be over! We close our little eyes and think of a happy safe place until the ordeal is over. Then we say what happened to the protection our parents promised us? Where were they when these demons from the pit of hell came and damaged the innocence of that beautiful little girl (or boy) they use to hold in their arms protecting us from this very danger????? Somewhere there was a breach in protection; At home,at school, at a relative’s house, by a parent, at a party even in the streets. Where ever or what age your violation happened…..IT HAPPENED!!

This person didn’t have permission to touch us. Some gained our trust only to break that very same trust. For some of you it tore down the very foundation changing you forever. For the rest of us we took it put it in the back of our mind in a black mental box to remember it no more. So we thought! I know its hard to talk about or even think about. While I’m here giving my testimony, this is a healing for me as well. I want you to know that you did nothing wrong and you didn’t deserve what happened to you nor is it your fault. What didn’t kill us only made us STRONGER. We may be bent but we are not broken.
My sister my hope for you is that you find healing in this blog and although its a painful touchy subject its necessary for the next step of moving on in life and overcoming this situation to be a BETTER you not a BITTER you. The people that violated us are sick individuals that also may have been victims themselves. I say this because I know of some victims that became predators themselves because they too were TOUCHED wrong. Its a demonic plague that has to be stopped; A curse that has to be broken and pulled up from the roots to die. Addressing it and having support is the only way to heal my sister. We even have to pray and forgive the the very person that violated us, not for them but for us!!! I’m talking about this because its one of the reasons our life’s as young woman have been disrupted with periods of loneliness fear and doubt. We made some bad decisions because of what has happened to us in the past and we cant seem to get it right. Thats why I’m blogging to help change the negative mindset of woman with the same issues I’ve overcome and still dealing with now. Here Is My Prayer:

Heavenly Father I come to you as humble as I know how. I Ask right now Father to give comfort and strength to every woman that is reading this blog . Help her to find the complete peace within herself. Help her to get that joy and happiness back to put the past behind her and for it to never hinder her life again. When it tries to show its ugly head again give her the ultimate power to rebuke it and send it back to the pit of hell from which it came. Help her to know that she is beautiful worthy of love and happiness again. Father I want to even pray now for those individuals that violated us, where ever they may be God I ask you to convict them in their spirit for what they have done as you give us the will power to forgive them and ourselves.
In Jesus Name Amen.

Thank you for you time and comments and please join me again for Part 2 of The Touch next week.

Be the type of person you want to find.

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Ladies be the type of person you want to find; Don’t be a nickel out there looking for a dime. Lyfe Jennings

I have always considered myself to be a very good dresser. I love to put colors and patterns together, even down to matching my shoes with my outfits. When I was younger, I was a little tomboy and always wore pants and had the latest sneakers. It wasn’t until I was 19 years old that I started experimenting with makeup and girly clothes, but I still had my tomboy ways.

The reason for my change back then was because I wasn’t really being noticed by the opposite sex. Don’t get me wrong I did have a few boyfriends but when they did notice me, I was just considered the home girl or the cool chick that liked sports. So I started to take noticed that other girls around my age that were getting the guys, were dressing and carrying themselves like young ladies.

The transformation was self taught; I didn’t have a role model around me to teach me how to carry myself like a young lady.( What I can say I learned from my mother was how to keep my hair on point). Even my best friends were tom boys and the older woman that were around me, were the ones that showed IT ALL. So thats what I did, I allowed my shape and curves to dictate what I was going to wear to show off my ASSets.

I did eventually get my wish because the young guys and even some of the men sure did take notice. I got all the unwanted attention I didn’t want and none of the kind I did want. So what I thought was positive attention in actuality it was all negative. I wasn’t really the type to show my breast or wear revealing clothes but I did wear my clothes fitted. As time went by I found my own style and made my own statement.. In that transition I started to pay attention to what type of men I was attracting. Here I am getting mad at these men for coming at me in a sexual manner yet in still it was ME all along that was getting their attention.

I said all this to say, that we as women have to BE THE TYPE OF PERSON WE WANT TO ATTRACT. We have to stop blaming the men for everything and start looking at what we are wearing, what we are not wearing, how we carry ourselves, how we speak, how we take care of our hygiene, our outer appearance and most of all how we are feeling about ourselves. All this plays a major part in who and what we attract even down to our friends. When we are feeling low, depressed,depleted,bitter,lonely and un-pretty, this is the worse time to date. Because it all seeps out of your pores and it releases a spiritual pheromone that attracts the wrong type of man.

You have to keep in mind that men are natural hunters and just like the King of the jungle, they can smell a wounded prey a mile away. So if you are hurting and are found in this state, you’re as good as dead (spiritually). Only until you’re feeling good about yourself should you make yourself available for dating because this will keep most of the weirdos away. Plus you will be in a state of strength were you are able to discern and say no.

Now to my beautiful Christian woman, you don’t have to walk around here looking homely and plan in order to be considered saved, Holy and sanctified. Please do your hair; put on some makeup, it doesn’t have to be caked on. Stop wearing skirts and dresses down to your ankles, over sized suits and those horrible 2 inch kitten heels, (save those for the mothers). I know I might get in trouble for this but, its not attractive not even to the Christian brothers. You don’t have to have anything showing to look attractive,beautiful and snatched. Truth is CONFIDENCE is the most attractive thing a woman can have and it will show every time she walks into a room. Going natural isn’t for everyone and these 30 inch weaves down your back is ridiculous (you know your hair isn’t that long ) and most men hate it. Woman find your own type of beautiful and adorn yourself with dignity, confidence and humility.

I also want to throw this out there, if you have it all together and still are single and no one seems to be checking for you, it’s not you, it’s them. Most men who aren’t really ready to settle down and want to play the field wont pay you any mind because they know the type of woman you are. You are Wife material and they’re not looking for that right now, so they won’t want to ruin a good woman such as yourself. So if you meet a good man that tells you he’s not looking for a relationship right now, BELIEVE HIM! It doesn’t make him a bad man it makes him honest.

You also have to be careful because you have some bold men out there that don’t have themselves together but fake like they do. Those are the ones you have to watch out for, because men get depressed and feel like failures too more than woman. The only difference is that they will deal with a lot of woman to make themselves feel better. If he knows he’s not where he wants to be in life, yet woman are still dealing with him, it strokes his ego and makes him become greedy and selfish. He doesn’t have any remorse until he is caught.

Over all ladies, carry yourself in a manner that will attract what you are saying about yourself. If that isn’t happening, then you have remove yourself from the dating scene and do some self evaluating and reflecting. Who you attract says nothing about the man but says EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU!!

Shawna Seymore,
Minister,Life Coach,Motivational Speaker

Wife duties on a girlfriends salary.

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Dear women:

Why do we continue to put ourselves in these hurtful situation-ships and one sided relationships? Do you hate being alone? Do you have low self esteem ? Do you hate yourself? What is it about your life that you makes you want to give up on true love? Why are you so impatient? Why don’t you really trust God? When He says that He will give you the desires of your heart? Is it because you don’t desire to be a wife, or is it that you don’t desire to be alone? I’ll wait……

Well it’s obvious that you do desire to be some form of a wife because you are doing all the duties of a wife while you’re getting a girlfriends salary, actually there are more woman doing the work of a wife while on a friends with benefits budget. Why is that?
Is your non-man or non husband telling you that you don’t need a title because you know what you are to me? Yes he is right YOU do know what you are to him, but what does he say and show you that you are? I’ll wait……

I know woman right now that are walking around and have been with a man for years and are still not married, some right in church. Pssss let me tell you a secret….. If he didn’t marry you by now, chances are he isn’t going to marry you and you are NOT HIS WIFE! A man knows within a few months of dating you what part you will continually play in his life, but it’s up to you to remove yourself from the roster and be the wife to someone else that God has created you to be. We were created for man; we are the gift. We were created for a certain man not just any man. Let me also be clear, just because you may not be HIS wife doesn’t mean your not a wife, because you are!!

In order for that to be possible, you have to carry yourself as one, but don’t perform as one. What I mean is don’t be giving your womanhood away, paying his bills, cooking and cleaning his house, washing his clothes and lending him money. It’s ok to lend a hand but don’t lend ALL OF YOU. If you give all you have to a man that hasn’t committed his heart to you , you are doing too much. A man marries a woman based on the way she carries herself, her morals, the way she keeps her house and the way that she is SO DIFFERENT than the other woman he has been dated, she’s meek, humble, isn’t loud and boisterous (Most men hate that). She’s just special.

There are woman that just don’t know how to carry them as a wife verses doing things of a wife and that’s where the problem lies. When I was younger I would do everything I saw my grandmother do for my grandfather in my relationships to SHOW them I was wife material but in actuality I wasn’t carrying myself as a wife. If I was I wouldn’t have to do anything all I had to do was BE. Some of you are DOing and are not BEing only because you don’t have a blueprint to follow, maybe you don’t have many married people around you or you come from a single parent home. My grandmother was my blueprint but why it didn’t work right for me is because I did the wife duties on the girlfriend budget without security, commitment and his heart and MARRIAGE.

Some of you woman may be saying oh please I don’t need to get married, I don’t need no paper to tell me I’m his and he is mines, ummm sorry Boo Boo yes you do! Marriage has nothing to do with being together forever it has everything to do with security and responsibility. When a man marries he is saying ” Yes God I take this woman as my gift and responsibility I will make sure she covered, protected, respected and loved. If you have no marriage God doesn’t honor the relationship, neither does the state government.

If your non-husband was to pass away and have assets and money left behind you are entitled to NOTHING. If you have children by him and his name isn’t on the birth certificate, your children are entitled to NOTHING and you will have to fight the courts to prove other wise on your kids behalf. If you and your non-husband were to by a house and car together and he is still legally married and he was to die, the wife gets EVERYTHING even his portion of anything he owns together with you, especially the bank accounts. Still think marriage isn’t important?? I’ll wait…

I see the new thing is that some men are proposing to woman and giving them engagement rings with no intentions of ever marrying the woman and the women are walking around here saying my husband this and my husband that. You are still a girlfriend and not a wife and yet you have been engaged for 3+ years. Psss let me tell you another secret, he’s not going to marry you! Why would you sit and wast your time with a man that is telling you in his non actions that you are not his wife,you’re not that special, I don’t want to take responsibility of your heart or our family, but I want to still be with you with no strings attached even though we been together for years?

I get it you just want to be loved, happy and to have someone to call your own. Yes you’re right you can’t help who you love, but what you can help is how you allow your heart and body to be used. The more you allow your body to be used the more you become depleted and take on more soul ties. ( I’ll save that for another blog) The bible says present your body as a living sacrifice holy and acceptable unto God,which is your reasonable service. (Romans 12:1)

You see the problem isn’t the man, it’s US. We sit here forming this non existing relationship in our minds just because we want to be with him, but honey if he doesn’t want to be with you, there is nothing you can do to change that mans mind. The problem with us woman is that we IGNORE the signs and we blow off what the man has told us in the beginning of the relationship. When he says he’s not looking for a relationship, BELIEVE HIM because that’s probably the only truth he will ever tell you after that, But no we hear what we want to hear and create this situation-ship with a man that is emotionally unavailable to you only because you want what you want.

Don’t date dumb and blind, be smart and trust your female intuition it will never lead you wrong. You deserve the relationship you want, because trust me the man is going to create the type of relationship he wants whether only sexual or committed. We have the right to do the same. Until WE as woman sit down and self evaluate themselves a lot of tears will flow and a lot of hearts will continue to be broken. If you don’t start SEEING Yourself as the GIFT and not a GAME, you will continued to be played.

I know this won’t be accepted by everyone but if helps just ONE WOMAN I’ve done my work.

Shawna Seymore,
Minister, Life Coach,Motivational Speaker

Let the SOWing begin!

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S.O.W. is a supported sisterhood where woman come to get back what they have lost! Themselves. We teach women how to get their self love, self worth and self esteem back by uprooting the negative and replanting the positive. S.O.W’s main goal is to GROW a community of strong women that can build greatness in themselves with the bricks life has thrown at them and follow their dreams. This blog page is just a reflection of what S.O.W (Sisters Of Worth) is all about. I hope to reach as many women that I can in hopes that the ones  I do touch, will turn around and S.O.W. the same by sharing these blogs.

“We are sisters. Different flowers,grown in the same garden”
“Sisters that S.O.W. together GROW together.”